Relationship Traffic Jam

Imagine this scenario if you will… you have overslept and are in a rush to get to work. You jump out of bed, take the world’s fastest shower, skip breakfast and jump in your car in an attempt to make it on time. You race out of the driveway, do the famous California roll through the stop sign, only to get stuck in the world’s largest traffic jam once you hit the freeway. Your now left with no other option but to hit the brakes and slow things down.

Although we hate to use the brakes in our cars its often something that we need to do. (Unless you like crashing and high insurance rates). This idea can also be applied to relationship as well. It can be fun going fast but sometimes we just need to put on the brakes a little bit.

Most of us have all done this at some time or another. We jump into a relationship too quickly just to have it burn out in a matter of months or weeks. This often leaves us disappointed or wondering what went wrong. The thing we must remember is when a relationship is rushed we miss out on important stuff. Stuff like getting to know the person your dating, how compatible the two of you really are, ect. It is easy to get caught up in the moment but we must still remember to take things at a reasonable pace. If it feels like the relationship is moving too fast then odds are it probably is. Here are a few hints to helping keep a relationship at a reasonable pace.

1. Communication- I put this one first on the list for a reason… It’s important!  Talk with your partner if you feel things are going too quickly. Be honest, tell them you just want to take things slower and they will probably be fine with that. (If they keep pushing you then their probably not a good person for you to be dating)
2. Plan active activates- Things like hiking, amusement parks, concerts are good activities for new relationships. Keep the intimate candlelight dinners at home for later on in the relationship.
3. Don’t stall out- If you feel the relationship is going to slow then talk to your partner about it. It’s important to go slow but you don’t want the relationship to stall out either.
4. Make personal goals- Set realistic goals for taking things slow according to your personal preferences. Stick with those goals and wait until the time is right to take the next step.

Extra points to the person who figures out how the colors scheme, in the first three paragraphs of this post, relates to the picture