Tip Tuesday- Stand Up!
Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009 at 8:00am UTC
Comments (1)For today’s Tip Tuesday we are going look at a classic mistake that many men and women make while dating. Most of us have made this mistake many times in the past and probably had no idea we were making it! What is that mistake you might ask? Simply put, it’s agreeing with the person your dating. Wait, Wait hold on one second, isn’t agreeing with people a good thing? Well, yes and no. Agreeing with people is great if you genuinely mean it. For example let’s say you’re both talking about how amazing and helpful my site is! If that were the topic of the conversation then of course you would both agree, wink wink. But on the other hand, if you find yourself agreeing with your date just because you don’t want to cause any trouble or because you think it will make them like you more, than your setting yourself up for failure. At the moment you might think you’re improving the situation but in the long term you’re only making it worse. Here is why…
- You’re lying to your date- If the date turns into anything long term they are going to figure it out eventually. When they do they’ll know you were lying to them.
- You look like a wuss!-When you agree with EVERYTHING you date says your sending them the message that you are spineless. Who wants to date someone like that? I know I sure don’t!
- You appear desperate- when you agree with everything you’re telling your date that you’re very interested in them. This takes all the mystery out of the date. People gain more gratification when something is challenging. If you go all in on the first date then there is no mystery left. When this happens your date will most likely get bored and move on.
- It’s boring- No one wants to date a robot who just copies everything they say. Keep things interesting and have a real conversation.
- You’re wasting your time- If you feel the need to lie to your date about who you are or what you believe then maybe they’re not the best match for you. Why waste your time with people you’re not compatible with. Move on and find someone who will truly make you happy.
The bottom line here is to stand up for what you believe in. If that happens to be different than the person you’re dating then that’s ok. Remember, no two people are going to agree with everything. If they do than someone is clearly lying.
Have a great weekend. 
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Comments (1)
I totally agree with what you said, but we also need to remember that what may seem like a dichotomy of opninion may actually be two very different thoughts on the matter. One person may be all hellbent on the destination and burning up the road on the way there regardless of how fast or nice others are driving. While quite truthfully the other one truly & simply is realizing that a clam drive is more relaxing and less of a time/energy waster. Hell….their perspective could quite honestly be to simply get out of the car and take their own more tranquil view of the journal…..all along still hoping the Mad Max is content with his road burning. Two different perspectives….now if someone thinks one sounds wussy than once again the 2nd person is probably saying “adios”….enjoy your negative energy…so sometimes standing up for something really takes more effort and determination by sitting down!