The Secret behind “Playing Hard to Get”

We have all heard of playing hard to get. It’s not easy to do and doesn’t always have positive results. Now if only there was a way to simplify the whole thing… O, Wait there is!

In this blog we will:

- Hear the opinions of five different people

- Compare the pros and cons

- Discover the secret behind being hard to get successfully

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When most people think about playing hard to get they often have mixed emotions. They see the potential to create attraction but worry about it having the opposite effect as well.

Here’s what a few people think about playing hard to get:

-It works to a certain point and then it gets annoying.

-It can definitely intrigue someone but it’s a lot of work. It causes other people to play games, and it can definitely backfire on you.

-Games are bad period and playing hard to get is a game. A girl will play hard to get to see if a guy will keep chasing her and to see how much the guy likes her. Just because a guy doesn’t play the game doesn’t mean he doesn’t want her. It excludes a lot of people by those that don’t want to play the game.

-It’s when someone likes someone or is interested in him or her. They play like it’s not a big deal or act like they are better than they really are. They like someone but they don’t want it to be shown.

-There can be no “winners” or “losers” in those situations, just more confusion. Relationships are confusing enough without playing games

Pros and Cons

Playing hard to get can make someone seem like a challenge to obtain. The challenge can create a sense of value or attraction. (If you would like to know more about of how this works feel free to email me) The lack of interest can also make a person appear unfriendly and cold. Its almost as if they don’t care what’s happening with the other person.

Hard-to-get:

Pros: Popular, Selective, Challenge, Added Sense of Value

Cons: Cold, Rigid, Unfriendly

Being easy to get has its pros and cons as well as well. People who are easy to get appear to be nicer, more flexible, and more caring. Unfortunately, they also seem average, boring, and even needy.

Easy-to-get:

Pros: Warm, Friendly, Flexible, Caring, Safe

Cons: Unpopular, Boring, Unselective, Average, Needy, Safe

(Yes, safe is in both categories. It’s definitely a pro in a long-term relationship but not always an attractive trait in the beginning of one. All depends on the individual.)

Everything up to this point should be old news for most of us. Now comes the cool part! There is a way to obtain the same results without the unpleasant side effects of playing a game.

The Secret

The secret is to be selectively hard to get. This means being hard to get for most people but easy to get for the one you want. For example, lets pretend you see a girl rejecting every guy that hits on her. Everyone would view her as being very picky and see it as a challenge to date her. Now imagine that same girl walking up to you and asking YOU out! Since she has made the effort she is considered to be warm and friendly while still being a challenge.

Selectively Hard to Get:

Pros: Popular, Selective, Challenge, Added Sense of Value, Warm, Friendly, Flexible

Cons: None if done correctly

The cool thing about being selectively hard to get is that you’re not playing games. You don’t have to manipulate anyone into feeling attraction towards you. Instead you’re showing them that you know what you want and you’re confident about getting it.